Get What You Need
Because you know you want it...
Sure, you can't always get what you want - but you should always get what you need! Learn how to tweak a guy's pleasure-providing technique while sparing his ego as we spell out exactly how to correct the most common passion faux pas.
Problem: He skips foreplay
Why he does it: Since sex is perceived as the grand prize, that's what guys tend to gun for. Also, because many dudes need only a short warm-up to be ready, they don't automatically get that it's an important step for you.
Frisky fix: When he bolts out of the starting gate like a stallion on steroids, slow him down by playfully saying something like, "This feels so good. I could do this for hours." That kind of reinforcement will make him feel like the man and encourage him to comply.
Problem: He stimulates your clitoris incorrectly
Why he does it: Every chick has her own preferences, and he may have gotten used to doing it the way his previous girlfriend liked it. Or maybe no one's ever given him feedback so he figures he's doing okay.
Frisky fix: If he's giving you oral, tell him in a sexy whisper what you want. If he's pleasuring you manually, gently put your hand over his, and guide it at the pace and pressure you desire. Avoid such phrases as "don't do it that way", which will sound like a complaint and make him feel like a lame lover.
Problem: He doesn't last long enough
Why he does it: As his arousal increases, it becomes harder for him to hold back; he has an instinctive drive to reach the finish line ASAP. So you need to act before he gets to the point of no return.
Frisky fix: Hop on top to control the depth and speed. The slower and more shallow his thrusting, the longer he'll last. And keep an eye out for his "I'm about to peak" signs: flushed face, body twitches, rapid breathing. When you notice his excitement escalating, take a time-out so his "groove" gets interrupted.
Problem: He only performs jackrabbit sex
Why he does it: For many men, this is the most effective way to reach orgasm, which is the ultimate goal. He also might be influenced by viewing porn, since this kind of rapid thrusting is popular in X-rated films.
Frisky fix: If he's on top, grab his buttocks, and use your hands to try and control his pace a bit. Also, temporarily avoid angles that allow him deep entry, such as doggie-style. Instead, keep your legs flat on the bed and close together to discourage him from working up the momentum to jackrabbit.