If you thought the G-spot was the MVP of vaginal orgasms, get ready to meet the A-spot. Like its cousin, the G-spot, discovering this hidden erogenous zone can bring you a multitude of intense orgasms.
Located on the front wall of your vagina, once you find the elusive A-spot, you’ll wonder how you ever lived without it. If you’re ready to reach a whole new level of pleasure, keep reading to uncover everything you need to know about the A-spot—with advice from Psycho-sexologist and Relationship Therapist, Chantelle Otten.
Exploring New Pleasure Zones
Exploring different parts of your body is not just about pleasure—it’s essential for understanding your sexuality and improving intimate experiences. As Aleks Trkulja, a sex, relationships, and body image therapist, explains,“Exploring different areas of your body is essential to experiencing pleasure. This is because stimulating multiple or all erogenous zones helps to build arousal.”
Sex can quickly become routine when we focus solely on specific genital areas and neglect the many other ways we can enjoy our bodies. “Sex can be reduced down to touching very specific genitals, which limits us from being curious about the many different ways a human body can experience pleasure,” emphasises Trkulja.
By embracing curiosity and exploring all your erogenous zones, you open yourself up to new sensations and deeper connections with your partner.
It’s also important to remember that finding these spots isn’t mandatory for a satisfying sex life. Trkulja reminds us, “Sex does not need to be this complicated. And you do not need to find all these spots to enjoy sex.”
The key is to discover what feels good for you without pressure or expectations. “In my opinion, touch the spots on your body that YOU decide feel good,” she says.
Wait.. What Is the G-Spot?
Before we get to know the A-spot, let’s revisit ourfriend, the G-spot.
The G-spot has long been celebrated as a key player in vulva owners’ pleasure, but there’s still confusion surrounding this sensitive spot.
Understanding its true nature andlocation can unlock even greater satisfaction. According to Trkulja, “The G-spot isn’t so mucha ‘spot’, but rather a place within the vagina where you are stimulating the clitoral complex.”
This internal clitoral structure, which extends intothe body and wraps around the vaginal canal, becomes engorged when aroused. Trkulja notes,“When you are stimulating the G-spot in the vagina, the reason it feels so good is because you might actually be stimulating the clitoris through the upper vaginal wall.”
How to find the G-Spot
To find the G-spot, she advises exploring about an inch inside the vagina on the upper wall. You should be able to feel its ridged texture compared to the smooth walls of the vaginal canal.
Whether using fingers or toys, lying on your back can be a comfortable position for solo exploration. For partnered play, positions like straddling a partner and rocking back and forth or guiding their hand with a toy can provide delightful stimulation. Reacquainting yourself with the G-spot can rekindle your connection with your body and enhance your intimate experiences.
What Is the A-Spot?
Let’s get into the A-spot, or the anterior fornix erogenous zone if we’re getting technical. It’s a sensitive area on the front wall of the vagina.
When stimulated, it has the potential to take you to a whole new level of ecstasy. The A-spot is located “past the G-spot, further along the upper or front part of the vaginal wall,” explains Trkulja. Unlike the ridged texture of the G-spot, the A-spot is smooth, making it unique and distinct. Trkulja reassures, “If you can’t find it, don’t worry. There are plenty of other spots you can touch to experience pleasure.”
However, for those eager to explore, deeper stimulation with fingers, toys, or a penis, moving slowly can help with hitting this elusive hotspot. Whether you’re exploring solo or with a partner, discovering theA-spot can add an exciting new dimension to your sexual repertoire, revealing that your body still has plenty of pleasure potential yet to be uncovered.
Tips For Exploring Your Body
If you’re ready to discover new parts of your body, including the G-spot and A-spot, here are some practical tips.
- Communication is key: If exploring with a partner, talk openly about what feels good and what doesn’t.
- Use lubrication: This can make exploration more comfortable and enjoyable.
- Take your time: There’s no rush. Enjoy the process of learning about your body.
- Experiment with different positions: What works for one person may not work for another. Try various positions to find what feels best.
- Stay relaxed: Tension can block your ability to enjoy the experience. Light a few candles, whip out your favourite smut book and focus on relaxation and deep breathing.
"exploring new areas isn’t just about pleasure, it’s about deepening your connection with your body. So, take your time, use plenty of lube, and most importantly, have fun discovering what makes you feel good."
Exploring your body can be an empowering part of understanding your sexuality. Whether you’re discovering the G-spot, the A-spot, or any of the erogenous zones, the key is to be curious and enjoy the process. You will never regret investing time in understanding what excites you and unlocking your body’s full potential.
This article originally appeared in Issue 01 of Cosmopolitan Australia as part of the Sealed Section, brought to you by Audible. Get your copy and subscribe to future issues here.
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