The steam, the heat, the soap suds and, of course, the nudity: in theory, the shower should be one of the hottest places to have sex.
If you’ve seen those steamy shower scenes on TV, you may have been under the impression that getting down and dirty behind the glass would be a simple, sexy endeavour. But then you tried it yourself and (surprise) it’s kind of a hot mess. Seriously, how do you get everything lined up right—and what on earth are you supposed to hold to keep from turning into a human slip-and-slide?
If your foray into shower sex has been a little more awkward than awe-inspiring, fear not. It is actually possible to make your encounters enjoyable—and we have all the advice and top shower sex positions (that actually work) to help you do so. Scroll on for all out tips and tricks.
Tips For Safe & Enjoyable Shower Sex
Feel free to skip the penetration
Sex and penetration aren’t mutually exclusive. If penetration isn’t workable for you and your partner, oral sex, hand jobs or other forms of intimacy can be just as enjoyable.
Use lube—and the right one
If you are going to aim for penetration, lube is a must. It may sound counterintuitive, but water can actually create more friction between you and a partner’s genitals. Opt for a silicone-based lube. Just be careful when and where you apply it, you don’t want any to drip on the floor.
Make the most of the soap
One of the benefits of shower sex is the intimacy it afford you and your partner. You’re already close and naked—why not heat things up by using soap to wash, massage and explore each other’s bodies?
Get equipped
Safety first! While spontaneity is hot in theory, there’s nothing sexy about slipping in the shower. Come prepared with a non-slip bath mat and, if you so desire, a foot stand. Tidying the shower beforehand and placing lube and condoms somewhere easy to access will also make the experience more seamless.
Bring in the toys
If penetration isn’t a go (or even if it is), why not bring in a sex toy or two? There are plenty of waterproof options on the market that can enhance the experience for both parties, and work with many of the shower sex positions ahead.
Best Shower Sex Positions to Try
1. Slow drip
One of the most simple shower sex positions, put down a non-slip mat and have the receiver turn to face the wall, with their hands in front of the body or above their head for stability. The penetrating partner positions themselves behind, holding onto their partner while inserting their penis or strap-on.
2. Face Off
If you’re worried about balance, slipping or stability, why not take things to the floor? For this position, the giving partner kneels down on the floor, sitting back on their heels. Feel free to place a non-slip mat under the knees to prevent sliding. The receiving partner straddles them.
3. Clean and Jerk
This is one of the best shower sex positions for couples with height differences. As we mentioned, sex doesn’t require penetration and mutual masturbation or sticking to hand jobs can be just as hot for both parties.
This position requires you to stand opposite your partner. Pop some silicone lube on your hands and start stroking each other’s nether regions. Use your free hand to explore your partner’s body, squeezing or stroking their erogenous zones.
4. Standing doggy
A classic position that works well in the shower, doggy is an old reliable. The receiving partner bends at the waist and spreads their legs, holding the wall or a rail for stability. The other enters from behind, holding onto the wall or their partner’s hips.
For extra stability, opt for a kneeling version of the position (just be sure to put some towels down to avoid slips and sore knees).
5. Liquid lunch
The shower is a great place for oral sex, so this position is sure-to-please, especially in tiny showers where penetration may not be viable. One partner stands while the other kneels or sits on a stool, using their hands and mouth to stimulate their partner’s genitals.
6. Upright missionary
If you’re feeling confidence in your balance and strength, this twist on missionary is super steamy. The receiving partner puts their back against the wall and opens their legs. Prop one foot up on a stool or the edge of the bath tub for deeper penetration.
Be sure to use a non-slip mat for this one.
7. Take a seat
The fear of falling can make climaxing difficult. Remove the worry altogether by trying a seated shower sex position, like this one. If you have a ledge or somewhere you can sit in the shower, amazing! If not, pull a plastic chair in.
The penetrating partner sits on the ledge or chair while the receiver straddles them, lowering slowly onto their erection or strap-on.
8. Water wheels
Shower sex can be a great option for wheelchair users. As long as the shower is big enough to accomodate the wheelchair or a shower stool, the giving partner kneels to finger or give oral sex to their partner.
9. Super soaker
It would be remiss of us to round up the best shower sex positions and neglect to include one that features a shower head—aka one of the best free sex toys (sorry, not sorry). Make the most of a handheld shower by directing its stream between your legs. You can add penetration if desired, and have your partner enter you standing.
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